Black Romance and Relationships, Social Policy

The Black Magic of Black Love #BlackLoveIsMagic


Black love has always been our forbidden fruit. White supremacist culture continually over-sexualizes the black female image. That same culture continues to rob black men of their ability to protect and provide for their families from the slavery era through the mass incarceration era. Throughout history Western culture has continuously developed and maintained systems that dismantle and destroy Black families, this effectively restricts the magic of Black love. Obviously Western culture has no respect for Black bodies or the Black family structure.  Black marriage was not legalized until 1967. Were we unable to love each other and form unions prior to then? In America Blacks were considered less than human, we have always been monitored and regulated, climbing up the ladder to prove our humanity from the moment we were forced to reside in this country.

White men would rape Black men’s wives and children. Sometimes this violence would occur front of Black to show some dominance. For centuries Black women could not look to their men for protection or support. This is a trend that still effects us today. Although Black men continue to be victims in this oppressive cycle, their image continues to be distorted by the media into a savage rapist criminal. As early as 1915, with popular films like D. W. Griffith’s Birth of a Nation crowds flocked towards films that antagonized Black men. Today Black men continue to be victims of oppressive systems that push this negative media culture. Mass incarceration affected policies, like the 3 strikes law and mandatory sentencing, have stripped fathers from their homes, again taking away Black father’s ability to protect and support their families. Further destroying America’s Black population. When you can’t see love anywhere around you, how can we expect to find it for ourselves?

When I saw the #BlackLoveIsMagic on twitter I knew I’d have to write about it. Seeing Black love on television gives us that beacon of hope. When I saw Black Voice (@Blk_Voice) post iconic couples, like 
George & Louise Jefferson from The Jeffersons anscreen-shot-2016-11-11-at-9-18-07-amd Dwayne Wayne & Whitley Gilbert from A Different world. Those shows that were slowly fizzled out of mainstream television. They reminded me some of my favorite television shows when I was in grade school like The Cosby Show, Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, Everybody Hates Chris; they all depicted functional and happy Black families. Watching TV couples who represent healthy positive screen-shot-2016-11-11-at-9-18-23-amimages of Black Love gave me an example of the happy Black family that I didn’t have in my single mother household. It gave me the ability to conceptualize a world I was unable to experience, that so many Black children aren’t able to experience. 

Our ability to continue to form love between each other in the midst of the overwhelmingly oppressive forces is why Black love is so special. The love that we create between each other uplift us. When I try to think about why American institutions would not want us to feel loved I hear the same phrases over and over

Black men are disrespectful broke, bad fathers…

Black women are easy, slutty, insecure hoes…

Black babies with nappy hair are hard to care for…

White men are nice, they got money…

White women don’t talk back…

I hear the music, friends, family, even parents who repeat these lines aimed at repealing Black women from Black men and vis-versa. Why deflect us from each other? Why push me away from my other half, the original man, my original man. My father is Black, my husband is pure and my children’s blood will not be filtered for the sake of ‘good hair’. Black love is magical because in between the love of two Black people, nothing else exists, not even the most oppressive forces. My man can lay in my arms and know he is my King for the simple fact that I have chosen him, nothing else matters and I know I am a queen in his eyes because he has chosen me and now we are royalty because we are connected. 

Now that I’m in my 20s I notice how crucial it is to have examples of happy Black marriages around me if I want to be happily married. As a single Black woman, raised by a single mother, who was raised by a single mother, I know the odds are against me. I know the odds are against the Black man, raised without a father, who had never met his father. This is why #BlackLoveIsMagic. It’s a powerful love and eternal bond that comes out of nothing, that’s the magic about it. It reminds me of Jessie William’s famous quote as he accepted the Humanitarian award at the B.E.T. awards, “Just because we’re magic doesn’t mean we’re not real”.  Black Love is rare because it’s been discouraged and suppressed throughout American history, regardless it is real and once you see it you know #BlackLoveIsReal 

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About Amani Sawari

I am a University of Washington alum, Class of 2016. I graduated with my Bachelors Degree in two majors: Media and Communications AND Law, Economics and Public Policy. It's a mouthful but it illustrates how I have a hard time doing only one 'thing'. I am a writer, poet, singer, songwriter and much more. I enjoy sharing my experiences and perspectives with those who are interested and I am a proud member of the black diaspora!
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